When we are children it’s very easy to view our mothers as a superhuman figure. She is in our young minds, flawless. Of course by seeing our mothers like this they are bound to disappoint us. After all no one can live up to that level of perfection.
I have long since put my mom on an unrealistic pedestal. But even now, when I am (at least in theory) a grown up type person, I still have to remind myself that she is in fact human full of emotions and needs just like other humans.
So often my mom puts her needs on the back burner, for mine. When I am having a melt down, she is one of the people who can pull me from the edge (even if the melt down involves me yelling and making a fuss until I finally get calm). If I am in need of good and insightful advice she is who I go too. With that kind of selflessness, it’s really hard not to take advantage. It’s hard not to just assume that she is tough as nails and here just to take care of me (did I mention I’m an adult)
I guess that’s the thing about the mother child dynamic, its deeply engrained and hard to overcome. And I am not saying that we should (after all I am getting the better end of this bargain) But what I am saying is that I should from time to time crawl out of my own selfishness, and check in with my mom, and see if there is anything I can do for her. After all, it’s the very least I can do for someone who has given so much to me.
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